Through the years, I have never written a blog about my belief of special education and people with disabilities. But in part of a current issue regarding the Connecticut shooting, I felt the need to share a short blog about what I believe.

We cannot blame a person for his disability. The disability has already been biologically and ingrained in a person by nature. It is already expected that his actions may be uncontrollable at certain times. However, I believe this person can be blamed by nurture. His parents, for instance, played a big part in his life. They are the people who brought him up to the person he grew up to be. However, there could have been some loopholes left unfilled that separated him from them and everyone else.

A child with Asperger's Syndrome or autism can experience a lot of social issues. These issues can be addressed as early as possible. If a parent is knowledgeable about his child's diagnosis and witnesses his frequent unusual behaviors, then they become responsible for helping their child. If they see that their child is screaming and throwing tantrums frequently than normal and secluding himself from other people, then the initial step of a parent is to question and observe. Not just letting it pass.

Parents may undergo a stage of denial. Some of them will learn to accept their child's disability and love their child unconditionally. But some may remain in the denial stage. I emphatize with these children whose parents never accepted their conditions and who did nothing but hide the believable truth.

The way a child is nurtured is very crucial. No matter how kind a parent may be and no matter how seemingly quiet and behaved a child may be, a parent's nurturing may still fail in one way or the other. There may have been some ignorance or a lack of propriety that has taken place. Given the disability, what can a parent do to help their child handle it? Given the proper parenting, what can a child with disability do to help himself? All of these can be answered if a child is surrounded by a strong support group. If he lacks it, then he will really become destructive and uncontrollable in society.

Let us not blame his disability for what he has done. And let us not generalize all children with Asperger's Syndrome as destructive and violent only because of one child's mistake. Although there can be no doubt that he is completely responsible for his actions, environmental and social factors may explain a lot about his behaviors as well.

The disability will always be present in the child by nature. But the complete and utter nurturing from a parent or an adult, can definitely make a lot of difference.